Archive for 'Men’s Health-Erectile Dysfunction'
IS IDEAL MARRIAGE ATTAINABLE? THE PRIMARY CAUSE OF THE FAILURE OF MARRIAGE
Posted on July 4, 2011, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
THE HARMONIOUS COUPLE – DISAGREE (PART 2)
Posted on April 7, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
Trust. Trust and commitment must be there if any relationship is to work. Building trust is as essential to a harmonious relationship as building chords is to harmonic music. Without formal structure, harmony soon drops to disharmony—and without a structure of trust in a relationship, the relationship becomes disharmonious.
Equality. Equality means equal respect, not equal roles, income, time, etc. To strive for equality in all areas can lead to a kind of competition and become disastrous for a relationship. However, no matter whether a couple has a one- or two-career marriage, whether the one does housework and the other is a CEO, they can always relate with equal respect with regard to valuing equally each other’s feelings, opinions, and roles.
Agreement. A harmonious relationship is one in which the two partners agree on many—if not most—things. They may both share a cynical view of life (or a religious or political view); they may both have the same taste in art, movies, books, clothes, houses; they may both share a love of the country, sports, music, stamp-collecting. Most important is that they share the same sense of humor.
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GAMES FOR ABSTINENT COUPLES – CONCLUSION
Posted on April 7, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
Likewise, certain hysterical women go beyond the “Not tonight: I have a headache” stage to a point where they do not want to deal with sex at all. Their sexual drive is diverted to a heightened interest in parenting or into their career. Some women harbor unconscious conflicts about fulfilling their female role of giving birth to and nurturing children. Often they grew up in households in which they witnessed their mother complaining about being trapped in a marriage and unable to fulfill herself. The child grows up wanting to avoid this trap and ends up going to the other extreme and feeling just as miserable as her mother. Such women develop hysterical attitudes toward sex, viewing it only in negative terms.
The games below have been designed to deal with these problems. Hence, they are among the most radical in the book.
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GAMES FOR UNATTRACTED COUPLES – GAME 3: THE LAST PERSON ON EARTH (PART 2)
Posted on April 7, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
The man and woman begin the game by wandering off separately in the woods. They may be wearing ordinary clothes or something special—a ragged and torn shirt, torn jeans, etc. At some point they spot one another and warily make their way toward each other.
“Excuse me,” he says. “May I ask if you’re the last woman on earth?”
“That’s correct. And may I ask if you’re the last man on earth?”
“So it seems.”
“Then we’re stuck with each other.” “I’m afraid so.” “Are you married?”
“I am, but my wife isn’t interested in sex.” “Is that so?”
“Yeah. She’s always telling me that she wouldn’t be interested in me even if I were the last man on earth.” “That’s terrible.” “And you? Are you married?”
“Yes, but my husband tells me he wouldn’t be interested in me if I were the last woman on earth.” “Very interesting.”
“So now here we are, the last man and woman on earth.” “Yes, here we are.” “What shall we do?” “I don’t know.”
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GAMES FOR PERVERSE COUPLES – GAME 3: LOOK, MOM—I HAVE A PENIS! (PART 4)
Posted on April 7, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
The game ends at this point. No sexual contact is made between mother and son—not only because it would be “incestuous,” but also because it would be detrimental. This is crucial. If contact is made, the game becomes another exercise in perverse sexuality for the sake of perversity and loses its impact. Again, the purpose of the game is to allow the voyeuristic and exhibitionistic tendencies to be played out while giving mother and son (or father and daughter) a chance to have a reparative experience. Following this experience, there should be a discussion of what happened and how it made each feel. The discussion should be held in the living room, with the principals fully clothed.
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GAMES FOR OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE COUPLES – GAME 5: DETAILED MEDICAL EXAMINATION (PART 3)
Posted on April 7, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
“Now, that didn’t hurt, did it?” the doctor asks when the examination is completed.
“No, not at all, doctor.”
“Everything seems to be in order, physically speaking.” “That’s nice, doctor.”
“Yes, doctor.”
In the postexamination interview, the doctor probes the patient with regard to sexual problems. Naturally, these problems will involve the “doctor” (the spouse), so the answers will be tinged with irony. This irony, plus the heightened erotic sensitivity aroused by the examination, should lead to new insights into their sexual relationship, including the problems that surround it, and certain absurdities of its ritualistic aspect. It may also suggest possible ways out of their conundrum.
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PUBIC LICE: WHAT ARE THE SYMTOMS? HOW IS TRANSMITTED?
Posted on March 27, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
Infected persons usually notice the nits (eggs) of the lice at the base of follicles un the pubic hair. The hair on the thighs or trunk, the hair of a beard or mustache, eyelash or eyebrow hair, and (rarely) the hair on the scalp may also be infected. Nits look like tiny white specks on the hair follicles. Multiple nits are usually attached to a single hair follicle. Finding the adult lice is much harder because the adults are only about a millimeter in length. Itching may or may not be present. Sometimes people notice tiny, rust-colored spots on their underwear, the result of bleeding from those places where the lice are feeding on the skin. Symptoms may take from a few days to a month to appear after a person becomes infected.
Infection usually occurs through skin-to-skin contact with an infected person, often through sexual contact. Coming into contact with the bedding or clothing of a person who is infected can also cause infection. Pubic lice do not survive off body such as in clothing or bedding) for more than a day or two.
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TESTING FOR HERPES: CULTURE
Posted on March 27, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
To culture a lesion, a swab of the area of the skin that is symptomatic is taken and placed into culture medium. This fluid is taken to a laboratory, where it is placed in contact with animal cells in culture. In seven to ten days, certain changes, consistent with herpes, occur in the animal cells if the virus is present. Additional tests can then be performed to determine what type of herpes—either type 1 or type 2—is present.
Cultures are performed as soon as possible after a lesion occurs, because the longer the wait, the less likely a culture is to provide an accurate result. For this reason a positive culture of a lesion is helpful but a negative culture does not mean the person does not have herpes. If the lesion has already progressed to the scab stage, then it may be too late to do a culture, since there is little virus present.
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STD GENITAL WARTS: THE SYMPTOMS
Posted on March 27, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
Once a person has been infected with the warts virus, it is unclear whether or not the virus will go away. In the past most researchers felt this was unlikely, but it may be that in some people the virus eventually disappears. As the technology for detecting the quiet (dormant) virus improves, this question may be more accurately answered. The visible symptoms may go away either on their own or with treatment. This is true of all types of warts, which tend to recur in the same area of the body where they appeared in the past. When the warts recur,
Once the virus has been transmitted, it is not transmitted again.
For unknown reasons, some people have symptomatic warts that are treated and never recur, whereas others have frequent recurrences. Many people who have compromised immune systems, such as those with acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS), have warts that are persistent and difficult to treat, but not everyone who has frequently recurring warts has AIDS. One factor that has been linked to frequent recurrences in people with intact immune systems is stress, possibly because stress suppresses the immune system. However, it can be counterproductive to tell someone that frequent outbreaks of warts are due to stress, because this will probably cause the person to experience even more stress.
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FOR SAFE OR SAFER SEX: BECOME INFORMED ABOUT SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS
Posted on March 27, 2009, under Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction.
Most people have incomplete or inaccurate information about sexually transmitted infections, how they are transmitted, and what they can do to prevent themselves from becoming infected. As I have emphasized so often in this book, having complete and accurate knowledge is essential for your health and well-being. This knowledge is power—power to keep yourself and your partner healthy. And sex that is free of the anxiety of contracting an STD is better sex.
Some people have claimed that if we teach people, especially young people, about sex and how to prevent STDs, then they will become more sexually active. Nothing is further from the truth. Studies have shown that the level of sexual activity among young people who are provided with sexual education either stays the same or goes down, and that all people who are taught about sexual health have fewer sexual partners.
In addition, the degree of condom use and reliance on other safer sex practices increases among people who are already sexually active. It’s time to make this information more widely available, and to provide it in a way that is free from moralizing about whether or not sex is right and which types of sex are “good” or “bad.” Whether or not to have sex, and in which sexual practices to engage, are the individual’s decision.
But if you decide to have sex, then you need the tools to stay healthy.
I usually provide it to my patients in clinic. This information will help you protect yourself, and it will help you communicate better with your health care professional about testing and other issues.
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